Archive for October, 2007

October 31st 2007

The Hat/Scarf Party Info…

We’re having a party!!!  The day is fast approaching when I expect my hair to start falling out (they said around 14 days).  I dread being bald, but as long as the cancer is gone when I’m done, then bald it is! 

With that in mind, we are having a hat/scarf party to decorate my head.  I was going to shave it at the party, but I’ve heard too many stories of people who did crazy things (mohawk, dyed it pink…) and then it never fell out.  So I’ll still have my hair, but maybe only for a few days.   

So here is the party info you need (if you’re nearby). 

Where:  Whittier Area Community Church (WACC)  room 10    8175 Villaverde Drive, Whittier, CA 90605

When:  Sunday, November 4th  from 2-4 pm

Some food will be provided.   If you’d like to help, please let us know; we have a short list of needs. 

Update:  BE SURE TO WEAR A HAT OR SCARF YOURSELF!!! 

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October 31st 2007

Awesome! Bandwidth Limit Exceeded!

It was an unexpected but pleasant surprise to open our web page this morning and get the error message saying “Bandwidth Limit Exceeded”.  That means that so many people have connected to the web site, that the allotted bandwidth for our hosting plan was all used up.  That’s the kind of “problem” you want to see when you have a website.  What it really means is that you guys really care about keeping up on how Monica’s doing so you’re checking the site often.  For that, we thank you.

Anyways, I’ve since increased our hosting plan to support four times the bandwidth, so don’t be shy about checking.  We won’t soon run out of bandwidth now!

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October 30th 2007

Bone Pain

Today was pretty rough! Things have been fine until last night. I woke up every hour and didn’t get much sleep. As a result, I was pretty tired today, but about 10:00 am I started having bone pain. They said it was a side effect of the chemo, but I didn’t expect anything new to hit me 6 days after chemo. I have never had this sort of pain before. It is really quite painful. It feels like I am being squished. It is mainly affecting my lower back and hips. My mother-in-law is here, and if you know her at all, you know she gives great massages. She gave me a massage which helped a lot. I plan on taking an over-the-counter sleep aid (Tylenol PM) tonight; hopefully it will help with both issues. Please pray that this pain goes away quickly and that I can sleep.

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October 26th 2007

Original Diagnosis Clarification

I’ve received a handful of emails with questions as to what Monica’s actual diagnosis was and if we knew what stage of cancer she was considered to be in.  Since many of you simply received a generic email letting you know that she has breast cancer, it seems there is some confusion as to the details.  I’ll try to clarify this here with a few details.

Background:
Monica had detected a small lump a few months ago, but brushed it off due to all the body changes that occur after having recently given birth.  Sometime in September, what was a small, barely perceptible lump grew at an alarming rate.  By the end of September, you could actually see the lump from the outside as if there was a baseball in there.  When she went to the doctor, she was sent for further investigation to the breast health center here in Whittier.  An ultrasound of the area revealed “suspicious tissue” and a biopsy was done.

That next week we were given the news that the tissue was indeed malignant, but they couldn’t tell how large the tumor was due to the density of the surrounding tissue.  What they did see initially in the biopsy, however, was alarming. 

Diagnosis:
The diagnosis was of “inflitrating ductal carcinoma”.  Here’s a link to a more formal interpretation of that diagnosis, but it basically means that the cancer cells are invading other cells (infiltrating and invasive are synonymous) and that they started in the milk ducts.  So far, lymph node tissues are also “suspicious” but they won’t be able to tell conclusively until surgery.  After getting an MRI, the size of the tumor was revealed to be about 11 cm.

The pathology report also showed “grade III (poorly differentiated to undifferentiated [cells]) wiht extensive hemorrhagic infarction of the tumor”[sic].  We were told that according to the Scarff-Bloom-Richardson cell grading scale, Monica’s cells registered a total score of 9 which gave her the “grade III” report above.  Check out the charts at the bottom of this page for an explanation of what it all really means.  Essentially, it means that her particular tumor is growing rapidly and is as aggressive as they come.

Obviously this wasn’t good news, and our rollercoaster had begun.  There are actually quite a few more details, but the bottom line is that every doctor we talked to (and we talked to many) said that we were dealing with a life or death situation and that she needed treatment as soon as possible.

Normally, the first order of business for breast cancer would be some sort of surgery.  Women usually get the choice of doing a lumpectomy (removal of only the cancerous tissue) or a full mastectomy, then possibly either chemotherapy, radiation, or both.  When we saw the oncologist (cancer doctor), he suggested that she begin chemotherapy first instead of having the surgery first.  The thought was that since the cancer cells are so aggressive, chemo could kill any extraneous cells found elsewhere in her body that are too small to be detectable before they start growing rapidly in that new spot.  If she were to have surgery first, there could be time during her surgery recovery for other potential cancer spots to grow.

The good news that we have since found out is that there isn’t any detectable cancer in any of her other organs.  This implies that we did catch it relatively early since it hasn’t spread, but that it really is growing at a phenomenal rate.  We have not been explicitly told what stage of cancer she is in, but due to the size of the tumor and the suspicious lymph tissue she is likely in the beginning of Stage III.  Here is a link to a breakdown of breast cancer stages.  It is considered “locally advanced”.

Now you can understand why we wanted every praying person we know to start praying.  Matthew 18:19 says “Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven.”  So, it looks like we have a few more than two agreeing that we want Monica healed, therefore we expect God’s promise to hold true, and we are excited that she will soon be back to normal and this will al be over!

Thanks for reading this long story… we love you!

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October 25th 2007

Woke Up Feeling Fine!

Thank you for all your thoughts and prayers. This morning I woke up and surveyed my feelings and body. I expected to be running to the bathroom, but instead I laid there and felt normal. I was actually surprised. I ate a few Graham Crackers and drank some water before moving around. I felt fine. It was a pleasant surprise. So I got up, took a shower, ate some food and went to work. It has been a good day so far, but I’ve heard that fatigue hits you harder about day 3 or 4. I go in today for a white blood cell booster shot at 2 pm. Then I’ll probably go home and rest.

Kai is staying longer at daycare, so that I can just sit down for a while without having to worry about what he’s getting into. My mom is here until Saturday and then we’ll have more company in and out for a while. It has been such a blessing having her here. Kai still isn’t sleeping through the night. It’s getting better, but he is still waking a few times a night. Sol and I have been able to rest the night through, thanks to my mom.

So for now, I’m feeling fine and am going to go day by day. We’ll keep you posted!

Monica

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October 24th 2007

Chemo – Day 1

Well today I began chemo at 8:30 am. The chairs were really cushy and comfortable…good thing because I was there for 4 hours. They adminstered an anti-nausea medication and then the three drugs in this order Adriamycin, Cytoxan, and Taxotere. Everything was going fine until about 4 minutes into the Taxotere. I started feeling dizzy, then my chest felt constricted and my face turned the color of a strawberry in about 5 seconds. They turned off the IV and immediately injected benadryl into it. They waited for me to return to normal and slowed down the drip. It was fine after that. It just took a little longer because they were going slower. It was a really a scary experience, and hopefully it won’t happen again. They said they’ll give me Benadryl before I start anything next time.

As for how I’m feeling – I feel fine. A little sleepy from a Benadryl hangover, but I just finished eating and it seems (for now) that I’ll be fine. I’ve heard that it takes a few days for all of the side-effects to kick in, if your going to experience any at all. I’m praying that I won’t have any! I am almost guaranteed to lose all of my body hair…no more shaving (looking on the bright side, right?)! I’m thinking of having a head shaving/hat/scarf party. So if you are in the area, keep an eye out for a date! I’m not sure how I will feel about being bald…but what can I do? I’m planning on just sporting it, but I’m afraid I have a funny-shaped head! 🙂 We’ll see in about 14 days!

Thank you for all of your prayers. I know that the Lord is listening and answering them.

Love to you all,
Monica

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October 21st 2007

Good Medicine

It’s really been great to hear Monica and her sisters (and cousin Rachyl) giggling as they play games and make jokes.  I bet they had a lot of fun when they were little.  Having them all here was the good medicine I was hoping for.  Not only have they provided good moral and emotional support, but they’ve had a good time together; that was something we hadn’t done for at least two weeks since we found out.

If you want to add to that good medicine after her sisters leave tomorrow, come on over sometime and bring a board game (we have plenty if you don’t have any of your own).  For those of you who have known Monica for a while, you know that she is an avid game player.  The recent game of choice has been the “Bean Game”, formally known as Bohnanza.  thanks to Raul and Laura for bringing over for us to play for a while.  If you’re looking for a fun family game, you can check it out by clicking on the picture below.

Bohnanza Card Game

The other large source of good medicine has been all your prayers.  We know many of you have been praying for strength, peace, and comfort during our trial.  Monica mentioned it in her last post, but I’ll share a little more detail. 

The first couple weeks as we learned more about her situation and had to make some difficult decisions, we were both emotionally mush.  I think we literally went through four boxes of Puffs tissues in about three days at one point.  A few days ago, however, Monica pointed out to me that I seemed a little different.  She said she felt different too.

My thick head didn’t realize it, but she pointed out that God was answering prayer in this particular area.  She wanted to recognize God’s answer to all the prayers for peace.  Since sometime in the middle of last week we have, indeed, felt that peace that certainly didn’t come from our broken hearts. 

We just wanted to acknowledge this and give God the glory.  We also wanted to thank you all for your faithfulness to praying.  We have a long road ahead, but we know that with all the support behind us, we’re going to get through it.

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October 19th 2007

After all the Tests…

Well, the week is finally over. I have had so many tests, and I can’t even begin to describe my week. It has been a roller coaster of emotions and full of needles, IVs and injections. I know that your prayers are reaching heaven’s door because there is a peace present in my spirit that I don’t understand. I should be a pile of mush, but instead I am sleeping, laughing, and looking ahead. I am on a doctor’s restriction not to lift anything over 15 pounds (Kai weighs 27), and now am radioactive and not allowed to hold Kai for any period of time over the next 2 days. It has been so difficult not being able to comfort, snuggle with, or play with my child – a source of my joy.

I have some good news to report from the CT scan and the Echocardiogram. The doctor called and said that the CT scan showed no sign of cancer on any of my internal organs. Praise the Lord! The technician for the Echocardiogram said that I have the heart of a teenager, so I guess that’s good news, too!

Today I had the bone scan…too bad it wasn’t the density scan. Instead, I was injected with radioactive material and then came back 3 hours later for the scan. I won’t have the results on that for a few days, but am scheduled to begin chemo on Wednesday at 8:30 am. I am going back to work on Monday and am going to try to work as much as I can. I know that some days are going to be harder than others, but we’re going to give it a shot.

Thanks for all your support and for all of the encouragement! We’ll keep you posted!

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October 18th 2007

Monica’s Sisters Coming to Visit This Weekend

I try to be a good student of Monica and pay close attention to her subtleties while continually learning about her.  When we first found out about her malignancy we went through all kinds of emotions, and of course loneliness was one of them.  Monica’s mom came to visit for a few days, which really helped, but I made a note when I heard her say that she wished her sisters could be there too.

Anyways, we decided to fly her sisters out this weekend from Paradise, CA (north of Sacramento) and Washington, DC.  Pray for their safe travels, and that their presence would continue to build up Monica.

Since this is the last “normal” weekend before she starts chemo therapy, I hope we can make it a weekend full of good memories!

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October 17th 2007

Oops, Twitter Doesn’t Seem to Be Working

It seems like Twitter isn’t working correctly, so I may take that down unless I can fix it.  Sorry.  Monica actually made several Twitter entries today, bu they didn’t show up…

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