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November 4th 2007

It was Hat-tastic!

Thanks to all my wonderful friends and family, I will never have to buy a hat again!  Today was a wonderfully encouraging day!  There were over 50 people at my hat/scarf party!  The food was awesome (thanks Mel), the fellowship was grand and the gifts were much appreciated.  Many people wore hats, and I finally have a cowboy hat to call my own!  (actually two 🙂 )  You don’t know how excited I am about that!  I didn’t end up shaving my head, but expect to be losing my hair this week.  When it starts falling out, then I am shaving it all off.   We had friends taking pictures, so look for those to come soon! 

With the combination of the people who were physically there and all of you who were there in spirit, I feel so blessed.  I can’t imagine going through this without you.  Thank you for sharing this day with me and making this journey a little brighter.  I actually am excited to wear all of the cute hats; it’s going to make being bald a bit more bearable.

Thank you, thank you, thank you.  Oh yeah, and thank you!

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October 31st 2007

The Hat/Scarf Party Info…

We’re having a party!!!  The day is fast approaching when I expect my hair to start falling out (they said around 14 days).  I dread being bald, but as long as the cancer is gone when I’m done, then bald it is! 

With that in mind, we are having a hat/scarf party to decorate my head.  I was going to shave it at the party, but I’ve heard too many stories of people who did crazy things (mohawk, dyed it pink…) and then it never fell out.  So I’ll still have my hair, but maybe only for a few days.   

So here is the party info you need (if you’re nearby). 

Where:  Whittier Area Community Church (WACC)  room 10    8175 Villaverde Drive, Whittier, CA 90605

When:  Sunday, November 4th  from 2-4 pm

Some food will be provided.   If you’d like to help, please let us know; we have a short list of needs. 

Update:  BE SURE TO WEAR A HAT OR SCARF YOURSELF!!! 

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October 31st 2007

Awesome! Bandwidth Limit Exceeded!

It was an unexpected but pleasant surprise to open our web page this morning and get the error message saying “Bandwidth Limit Exceeded”.  That means that so many people have connected to the web site, that the allotted bandwidth for our hosting plan was all used up.  That’s the kind of “problem” you want to see when you have a website.  What it really means is that you guys really care about keeping up on how Monica’s doing so you’re checking the site often.  For that, we thank you.

Anyways, I’ve since increased our hosting plan to support four times the bandwidth, so don’t be shy about checking.  We won’t soon run out of bandwidth now!

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October 26th 2007

Original Diagnosis Clarification

I’ve received a handful of emails with questions as to what Monica’s actual diagnosis was and if we knew what stage of cancer she was considered to be in.  Since many of you simply received a generic email letting you know that she has breast cancer, it seems there is some confusion as to the details.  I’ll try to clarify this here with a few details.

Background:
Monica had detected a small lump a few months ago, but brushed it off due to all the body changes that occur after having recently given birth.  Sometime in September, what was a small, barely perceptible lump grew at an alarming rate.  By the end of September, you could actually see the lump from the outside as if there was a baseball in there.  When she went to the doctor, she was sent for further investigation to the breast health center here in Whittier.  An ultrasound of the area revealed “suspicious tissue” and a biopsy was done.

That next week we were given the news that the tissue was indeed malignant, but they couldn’t tell how large the tumor was due to the density of the surrounding tissue.  What they did see initially in the biopsy, however, was alarming. 

Diagnosis:
The diagnosis was of “inflitrating ductal carcinoma”.  Here’s a link to a more formal interpretation of that diagnosis, but it basically means that the cancer cells are invading other cells (infiltrating and invasive are synonymous) and that they started in the milk ducts.  So far, lymph node tissues are also “suspicious” but they won’t be able to tell conclusively until surgery.  After getting an MRI, the size of the tumor was revealed to be about 11 cm.

The pathology report also showed “grade III (poorly differentiated to undifferentiated [cells]) wiht extensive hemorrhagic infarction of the tumor”[sic].  We were told that according to the Scarff-Bloom-Richardson cell grading scale, Monica’s cells registered a total score of 9 which gave her the “grade III” report above.  Check out the charts at the bottom of this page for an explanation of what it all really means.  Essentially, it means that her particular tumor is growing rapidly and is as aggressive as they come.

Obviously this wasn’t good news, and our rollercoaster had begun.  There are actually quite a few more details, but the bottom line is that every doctor we talked to (and we talked to many) said that we were dealing with a life or death situation and that she needed treatment as soon as possible.

Normally, the first order of business for breast cancer would be some sort of surgery.  Women usually get the choice of doing a lumpectomy (removal of only the cancerous tissue) or a full mastectomy, then possibly either chemotherapy, radiation, or both.  When we saw the oncologist (cancer doctor), he suggested that she begin chemotherapy first instead of having the surgery first.  The thought was that since the cancer cells are so aggressive, chemo could kill any extraneous cells found elsewhere in her body that are too small to be detectable before they start growing rapidly in that new spot.  If she were to have surgery first, there could be time during her surgery recovery for other potential cancer spots to grow.

The good news that we have since found out is that there isn’t any detectable cancer in any of her other organs.  This implies that we did catch it relatively early since it hasn’t spread, but that it really is growing at a phenomenal rate.  We have not been explicitly told what stage of cancer she is in, but due to the size of the tumor and the suspicious lymph tissue she is likely in the beginning of Stage III.  Here is a link to a breakdown of breast cancer stages.  It is considered “locally advanced”.

Now you can understand why we wanted every praying person we know to start praying.  Matthew 18:19 says “Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven.”  So, it looks like we have a few more than two agreeing that we want Monica healed, therefore we expect God’s promise to hold true, and we are excited that she will soon be back to normal and this will al be over!

Thanks for reading this long story… we love you!

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October 21st 2007

Good Medicine

It’s really been great to hear Monica and her sisters (and cousin Rachyl) giggling as they play games and make jokes.  I bet they had a lot of fun when they were little.  Having them all here was the good medicine I was hoping for.  Not only have they provided good moral and emotional support, but they’ve had a good time together; that was something we hadn’t done for at least two weeks since we found out.

If you want to add to that good medicine after her sisters leave tomorrow, come on over sometime and bring a board game (we have plenty if you don’t have any of your own).  For those of you who have known Monica for a while, you know that she is an avid game player.  The recent game of choice has been the “Bean Game”, formally known as Bohnanza.  thanks to Raul and Laura for bringing over for us to play for a while.  If you’re looking for a fun family game, you can check it out by clicking on the picture below.

Bohnanza Card Game

The other large source of good medicine has been all your prayers.  We know many of you have been praying for strength, peace, and comfort during our trial.  Monica mentioned it in her last post, but I’ll share a little more detail. 

The first couple weeks as we learned more about her situation and had to make some difficult decisions, we were both emotionally mush.  I think we literally went through four boxes of Puffs tissues in about three days at one point.  A few days ago, however, Monica pointed out to me that I seemed a little different.  She said she felt different too.

My thick head didn’t realize it, but she pointed out that God was answering prayer in this particular area.  She wanted to recognize God’s answer to all the prayers for peace.  Since sometime in the middle of last week we have, indeed, felt that peace that certainly didn’t come from our broken hearts. 

We just wanted to acknowledge this and give God the glory.  We also wanted to thank you all for your faithfulness to praying.  We have a long road ahead, but we know that with all the support behind us, we’re going to get through it.

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October 18th 2007

Monica’s Sisters Coming to Visit This Weekend

I try to be a good student of Monica and pay close attention to her subtleties while continually learning about her.  When we first found out about her malignancy we went through all kinds of emotions, and of course loneliness was one of them.  Monica’s mom came to visit for a few days, which really helped, but I made a note when I heard her say that she wished her sisters could be there too.

Anyways, we decided to fly her sisters out this weekend from Paradise, CA (north of Sacramento) and Washington, DC.  Pray for their safe travels, and that their presence would continue to build up Monica.

Since this is the last “normal” weekend before she starts chemo therapy, I hope we can make it a weekend full of good memories!

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